Loneliness is not the absence of people, family , friends or a spouse. it is a state of the mind where the physical presence of people does not cover up the depth of emptiness felt from within. This often occurs when the mind consistently go through very challenging times resulting in so much emotional cracks and psychological breakdown.
Victims of loneliness are often vulnerable to mental instability, social anxiety, alcoholism, drug abuse, depression and suicide. Some of its root causes include; Rejection, Low self esteem, physical isolation, divorce, psychological disorder, emotional abandonment, death of a loved one, abuse and lack of true friendship.
Loneliness has no respect for persons, class, religion, social status, relationships or even marriages. it is an emotional virus, parasitic in nature and it’s ultimate goal is to bring it’s victim to a state of isolation and possible annihilation. A person can be married and still feel lonely, friends can be all around yet you still feel lonely. This inbuilt turbulence is a sign of emptiness that needs urgent attention.
FIVES BASIC TIPS TO OVERCOMING LONELINESS
- Build Companionship
Many times emptiness is a sign that love is far from reach. There’s a closeness you can reach with those around you that has the capacity to trigger an inseparable bond of Love. Companionship is born out of fellowship and fellowship is the genuine expression of Love . You can’t be true friends and not be in fellowship, when friendship is void of companionship then love is deficit. The expression of love is two-dimensional, the individual involved is both a giver and receiver. Problems are created when we always want to be at the receiving end, but solutions are realized when we opertate in this two-dimensional pattern (givers and receivers). Be rest assured that when you give love, it always have a way of coming back to you, like the saying goes “givers never lack”. Be the first to always want to build companionship. It might not be reciprocated but don’t feel bad or discouraged, just continue in that act of kindness and soon you’ll realise how fast this actually works.
- Eliminate The Fear Of Rejection
People are bound to reject you but this must not make you lose your sleep or feel depressed. Infact when a door closes it’s an avenue for other doors to be opened, endeavour to explore your world and make new friends. Those who reject you have no clue what blessing you would have added to their world. Trust me, soon you will find friends of similar interest and passion and the seed of loneliness will be crushed forever.
- Avoid Physical Isolation
Get busy, acquire new skills and interact with people who can add value to you. Physical isolation is born out of idleness. There’s this popular saying that an idle mind is the devil’s workshop. The devil is battling so hard to make you idle so it can rule over your mind with all form of depressing and antagonistic thoughts, this often is the genesis of chronic loneliness. Make new friends, get a job, do some workout, get professional with your acquired skill, be active in church, fellowship or social groups, play healthy games and give yourself a treat.
- Be Happy
Happiness is key to combating loneliness. People who are constantly unhappy have a way of transmitting loneliness to those around them because loneliness is contagious. Avoid unhappiness at all cost, even when there’s no cause for joy endeavour to stir it up from with in. People will step on your toes, things may not work out as planned, just ensure your happiness level is constant by doing those things that gets you excited and give you joy. The Bible tells us that the Joy of the Lord is our strength (Nehemiah 8:10), meaning there’s a need for total dependence on the person of the HolySpirit for joy. “Don’t worry, just be happy”, be anxious for nothing (Phil. 4:6)
- Create Time For the Word And Prayer.
The word of God is medicinal to our soul, spirit and body. Negligence to the ministry of the word and prayer is destructive to spiritual health. Our minds can be renewed if we give diligence to the study of God’s word, (Rom 12:2). The Bible tells us that faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God (Romans 10:17), also James 5:16 teaches on the efficacy of fervent prayers. If we must overcome the forces battling with our minds then we must give in to the ministry of the word and prayer. In conclusion, get professional help, seek medical attention, counsel and rehabilitation. This is important most especially for those who are presently battling with some form of medical disorders caused by this psychological mishap. I pray that God will give you the strength and grace to overcome these times. It is well with your soul, spirit and body in Jesus Mighty Name (Amen)