There are so many generalizations when it comes to true friendship. Some believe friendship is linked to how much we give as it translates to helping out in times of difficult situations, “a friend in need is a friend indeed”. Many tie friendship to our availability in times of loneliness, setback, trauma and tragedy. These are very good opinions. It’s however disheartening to find people talk about “friends with benefits” as though a psychological therapy is needed to water down the insanity that beclouds a set of humanity when it comes to the subject. It’s a misguided illusion fired like a well guided bullet into the heart of the man called Morality. This is a quest by the army of Immorality to rob Morality of its moral virtues both in this generation and the next.
Amidst this adventure, I realised people are in dire need of trust, love, care, peace, joy and happiness not because they don’t have friends around them, but rather the foundational attributes of true friendship are too expensive to be found outside the sphere of godliness. Expecting total satisfaction from friends who have no clue what it means to be true is like desiring to draw water out of a dry well. True friendship tend to be invisible in a world were racial differences, political acrimony, tribal sentiments, social-class discrimination and prejudice are evidently predominant.
This is the simple reason why very good friends become very serious enemies within a short time . There’s so much desire for self satisfaction, self justification and many other self explorations that make rigorous exploit of all valuables embedded in this gift called friendship. Yet no proper considerations on who suffers the effect of these actions when the chips are down.
Like someone rightly said, everything in life has got a price tag and friendship is no exception. Hence people who can’t afford it are advised to drop it, while those who don’t get enough are advised to change friends. This justifies the fact that friendship in this world doesn’t come cheap at all. If you don’t meet the stakes then you’ll surely get a break. When the road is calm and smooth, friends are there to ride, but when the going gets rough and tough, they pull over and watch you walk alone.
On social media, a lot of those beautiful faces we see as perfect people with the perfect life battle depression daily because of the imperfect world that makes up their true realities. A thousand friends on air, yet no friend on land, three thousand friends online yet no friend on sight, seven thousand followers on instagram, yet none to help an instant gambit. These friends doesn’t seem good enough but the accolades they bring, give a bit of joy. In silence patience is tested and in response joy is in a bit. Suddenly the world is void of trust, true love, true peace, true joy and true happinesss. This is the cost of friendship in this world, every truth is chained to some form of benefits.
I have seen people who are not believers display extraordinary friendship, but it doesn’t take too long before you clearly see who gains or lose. True friendship is a kingdom thing and its price was paid once and for all eternity.
The blood of Jesus transformed us from being enemies of God to friends, sons and children of His kingdom. If this is a true story, it ought to be evident in our relationships. We received God’s friendship without any price tag, therefore we are expected to give true friendship without any demand for benefits. If people can’t see Jesus in us then we are none of His. Jesus interacted with all class of people, and there was no discrimination because everyone was important to Him. Proverbs 18:20- A a brother.
Our call as beloved children of God is to be that friend that sticks closer than a brother to those around our sphere of contact and influence. Many times what draws people to the kingdom is not our eloquence or abundance of speech but rather our display of friendship and love to those who have no clue what Jesus looked like. For such, we are the Jesus they see. To the blind, we are the voice of Christ and to the deaf, we are the picture of Christ.
People are in dire need of trust, true love, true joy, true peace and true happiness, and these are natural endowments of the new creation in Christ, Gal.2:20, Gal.5:22-24. We are in custody of these godly virtues, let’s not make a wreck of the harvest. For Freely we have received, let’s also freely give. There’s no better time to be the gospel we preach than now, for now is the hour of salvation.
Romans 13:10-14: F